Be sure to read the explanations to the five steps. Do NOT just skim through the pointers but read and reread the explanations even if you have heard the pointers before!
It is by UNDERSTANDING the explanation that we can start to solve the puzzle so, again, do NOT skip them. Read everything and really think about what it means.
Five steps on how to stop watching pornography forever
1) Write a list with two columns.
In one column write down WHY you want to quit porn (What benefits will you receive when you stop watching ponography ?)
In the second column you write down what your life will look like 5 years from now if you do not stop using porn.
2) Identify and WRITE DOWN every trigger that makes you relapse.
This is very important. Do NOT skip this step!
3) Be aware of your triggers….and then forget them!
(*This is the key to solving the puzzle and the reason so many are struggling with this is because it is a paradox, see the next point to understand)
4) Find your definite major purpose
and then keep all of your focus on that instead of thinking about how to AVOID and how to quit porn.
(This is the most important one of all the pointers)
5) Use a cognitive enhancer, nootropic supplement
To help your brain with the self control aspect. *this one is optional but can be very helpful
(se down below for more info)
You MUST read this explanation of the 5 steps in order to get your brain to “click” and put you in the right mindset!!!
You might have heard all the above advices on how to quit porn before but please read this because what is missing is the right mindset. Without it, you will fail. The advices are good but they are NOT ENOUGH in and of themselves. We need to get EVERY PART of our brain to understand them, we have got to get the brain to really “click”, as I call it.
I want you to REALLY think about what you are reading and not just brush it of with a “yeah yeah, I’ve heard it all before attitude”. Really give it a lot of thought and read it several times.
Ok, Good! So here we go:
Explanation of the five steps on how to quit porn:
How to quit porn:
Write a list with two columns
Step 1)
You must know exactly why you want to quit porn. It is not enough to just start half assing it. You also need to write it down in order for it to better get into every part of your brain.
So write it down and read it several times in a row!
If someone wakes you up in the middle of the night asking you exactly why you want to stop watching pornography you should be able to without hesitation give the EXACT answer.
It is the foundation in overcoming any bad habit/addiction. We need to know the why and the why not because when the reptilian part of the brain starts to take over and the prefrontal cortex, (our control center), in the brain shuts down we start drifting into “autopilot mode”.
And without a SUPER strong “why?” and “why not?”, ingrained into our subconscious mind, we have 0% chance of avoiding a relapse. We just go into “follow mode”, letting the autopilot drag us along like a person without will or choice.
After all, we do not suddenly drive over to the opposite side of the road, into oncoming traffic, even if we were to get such an impulse or thought suggestion one brain foggy day do we?
Nope!…
…and the reason why we do not is because we have a strong enough “why not” imprinted into our subconscious mind.
How to quit porn:
“Identify and WRITE DOWN every triggers”
Step 2)
There are probably many triggers that starts the whole relapse process for you and you must identify them all…
…this is precisely because of the autopilot reason we just talked about.
If you are not even aware of them it is so much easier to fall when presented with a sudden trigger. Just like with the first advice, this one also needs to be written down and imprinted into your brain.
How to stop watching porn:
“Be aware of your triggers….and then forget them”
Step 3)
The first two pointers are the “home work”, if you will, something that just has to be done before we can actually start overcoming the addiction.
Now in step number three the actual “art” of overcoming addiction begins and this is where we start to add the puzzle pieces together.
The reason why so many struggle with how to stop watching porn is because this is somewhat of a paradox:
We need to be aware of our triggers yet, if you look at point number four, it says: “do not think about quitting porn” and do not think about how to avoid porn…
Here’s the deal: (keep reading, you are doing good!)
…you see, what we keep our focus on grows and becomes more and more part of our lives. That is a fact and a natural law as true as gravity. This is of course the reason why we must stop thinking about avoiding porn all the time and instead shift our focus to our goals instead.
This is yet another reason why we MUST imprint the “why?”, “why not” and the “triggers” into our brain in order for us not to have to walk around thinking about them (focusing on them)….
…they are just there, imprinted in our brains so that we don’t have to give them any thoughts whatsoever and we can instead shift all of our focus on our purpose in life instead.
How to quit watching porn:
“Find your definite major purpose”
Step 4)
You probably heard the advice “fill the void” many times already. It’s a good advice and we should fill the void that is left after after quitting an addiction. We MUST fill the hole but…
…the advice “fill the void” is not enough…
…you see the problem is that it’s not specific and exciting enough. If we always try to fill it with exercise, meditation, cleaning the house we will soon fail as those (even if they are good things we should be doing) pale in comparison to the massive dopamine hit we got from the addiction itself.
Now I’m NOT saying we have to find something that spikes our neurotransmitters as much as the addiction but what I AM saying is that we must find a BIG goal that excites us. A definite major goal…
…and this is where so many struggle, because the words…
- major goal
- definite major purpose
- life vision
…somehow got a way of giving us some kind of “goal setting performance anxiety” making us freeze and we can’t come up with anything at all…
…only to make us feel even more like there are something seriously wrong with us.
But those words do not have to be be scary at all and here is how I personally solved it:
Instead of asking “what could be a major goal for me”? ask yourself: “What would my ideal day look like”?
NOW we are talking! This is much more easy to visualize and you know what the coolest part about it is?
IF you shift all of your focus on how to achieve that life in which you can have as many of those “ideal days” as you want, the chances of it becoming a reality is very realistic indeed.
And perhaps sooner than you can imagine!
There are always ways to make, at least some of it, come true.
This gives us much more drive, dopamine AND:
-What do you think happens with all your drive and energy if you manage to shift your focus and behaviors AWAY from porn addiction and instead transmutate and CHANNEL the most powerful of all energies in the human body (the sexual energy) towards that ONE single focused goal?-
That’s right:
Your desire for porn will soon pale naturally as you, day by day, now are focused and driven by the question “how can I get 1% closer to my goal tomorrow?” instead of the question “how can I avoid porn tomorrow?” Can you see the difference there?
The ideal day probably looks different for everyone. It might be that you, within a few years want to be able to fire your boss and make money on your own so that you can start your days at 10:30 instead of 5:30…
…and so that you can work from home, being able to watch your children grow up and then taking your wife out for dinner at night and after that going to a movie…
GREAT, That is all VERY realistic and achievable in today’s world.
So start with point 1 on the list in this article and get to it right now! Transmutate that energy, channel it into making your dream come true instead of wasting it into a paper tissue in front of the computer.
How to quit porn:
“Use a cognitive Brain enhancer”
Step 5)
First let me remind you that this step is optional and it is in no way necessary for overcoming an addiction. I don’t want you to spend money on something if you are able to stop using porn without it. Now that said…
…when it comes to my personal reboot, and how I managed to drastically reduce my relapse to porn, it wasn’t until I started using the brain enchancer that the puzzle pieces fell in place for me. I relapced to porn almost every to once every second week for a long time…
…AND THEN…
…the first time I tried the “Brain pill enchancer” I managed to go 126 days without a relapse and you know what? I relapsed when I had run out of the pills…
…five days after they run out. Today I eat them perhaps 4-5 days out of 7 and I’m doing very well. It’s so easy to focus on my definite major purpose instead of wasting my life force in fron of the laptop, watching OTHER men banging chicks.
Using Brain enhancers (also known as notroopics) can be very helpful when dealing with things that takes some effort for our brains to get use to. (how to quit porn, overcoming addiction/changing habits certainly fall into that category)
If you are interested you can click here to find the brain product I recommend
They can be helpful in many ways. For starters they have the ability to increase blood flow to the brain and to the prefrontal cortex. As you know the prefrontal cortex is the “control center or our brains “police”, if you will.
If you are interested to learn more about how the prefrontal works as our brains “control center” you can
click here to go read some science about it.
According to studies notroopics can help us to:
- More quickly process information
- Make effective and better decisions
- Have fewer distractions
- Cut through brain fog
- Reduce stress
- Perform better under fatigue
- Acquire new skills more easily
Yeah, so, speaking of the brain I think you see why it does not take an Albert Einstein to figure out how brain enhancers can be of value when you want to quit porn.
“Whenever I need/want to change a habit that requires some extra effort I always use notroopics and I can honestly say that they really give you a great deal of advantage. That extra edge”
When I take them I feel that my monkey brain makes less noise and the part of my brain that keeps me in control is much stronger….
…it’s like: I can still hear the distractions, the urges but they are easily ignored and I can just keep my laser like focus on what I know is good for me instead…
…this makes it more easy to concentrate and keep our focus on what’s important, without getting knocked of track by distracting and spontaneous impulses, that the reptilian part of the brain throws at us. (like when getting an urge of some sort for example).
Remember, in your quest on how to quit porn, step five is optional. It is not required to use a nootropic to overcome porn addiction. I do however believe that using a good brain enhancer can give you an edge and it’s what helps me get over the hump whenever I’m stuck in a relapse cycle of some sort. It just makes “the voice of the urges” much more easy to handle.
If you are interested in brain enhancers and you want to give it a try yourself you can
click here to find the brain enhancer I recommend and that helps me
So there you have it. These are the steps you should do to stop watching porn. Read the first four steps several times. It’s time for you to get serious and go after your dreams right now and do whatever it takes to get there!
I wish you all the best in your journey and in your desire to quit porn. Remember life is short and one day it will flash before your eyes…
…make sure it’s worth watching!
I’m rooting for you warrior. Now go dream your life and then live your dreams!
Much Love
-Bob Castle-
If you want more tips on rebooting and tips about improving erection quality during reboot you can
click here and read this article
P.S If you are not interested in the question how to stopwatching porn and just are someone who accidentally stumbled upon this page and are wondering: “what porn loving person in their right mind would want to stop looking at porn voluntarily?” then read this article
why you must be careful with porn.
Thank you for reading our article “How to stop watching ponography forever”
Also, be sure to read our article “can I have sex while I’m rebooting?“
